I’ve always admired those beautiful shawls that Stevie would wear. I’m just personally not a shawl person but I do love the look and style. So when I came across this incredible kimono, I just couldn’t wait to share it with all of you.
Headbands are one of my favorite accessories but in the summer it obviously not an ideal time to wear one. But lace headband (in my experience) are comfy all year round. Bonus… it’s lace lol and this shop has matching wrist cuffs too.
What’s a great outfit without the perfect shoe? These gorgeous boots aren’t just for walking, they help support the work and livelihoods of Guatemalan artisans. So you can look badass and know you’re also helping to keep creativity and craftsmanship alive and thriving.
I think it’s fair to say that every witchy queen loves her some crystals and what’s better than a beautiful piece of clear quartz on your altar? One in your hair of course. This listing include TWO hair pins. I’m already imagining the different style I could create with these babies.
And those are my 5 Etsy find this week! I hope you enjoy this little list and go support some awesome small handmade businesses.
Hello witchy babes! Having an Etsy shop myself, I know how hard it can sometimes be to get your shop noticed and make a name for yourself. It doesn’t help either when there’s hundreds of other shops selling similar creations as you. So I’ve decided to do a Weekly Etsy Roundup. Every Sunday I’ll be featuring 5 products on Etsy that have caught my eye.
What’s better than an everyday plain jane toner? Why a magical one of course! Now it should be noted that the beautiful creator of this toner doesn’t claim it has any magical abilities. But come on, just looking at this wonderful packaging alone, it’s got to be a little magical… right?
Yep. I’m going to go into a “feminist rant” now. Really I just feel like I need to address why some people (women mostly, is who I’m talking about here) don’t want to be called feminist. I wrote a piece a few weeks ago about how feminism isn’t cool anymore, where I just stretched the surface of the “anti feminist” trend that I have been witnessing lately.
Right now though, I’d like to point out the major hypocrisy in the “anti feminist” ideology and my own opinions on the whole thing.
The main reason I see many people arguing against feminism is that it’s not inclusive. Their argument is that if feminist were really about equal rights for everyone then they wouldn’t be called feminist in the first place. To understand why feminism is called feminism you need to look at the origins of the movement and it’s history. Feminism, as I think we all know, was a movement created to establish equal rights (both politically, economically and socially) for women when women were believed to be less than.
Comparing this to a movement like Black Lives Matter, it’s not that people within this movement are saying everyone else doesn’t matter too. They are not fighting for special treatment of blacks or minorities, nor are they fighting against every single white person. The reason the movement is called Black Lives Matter is because right now, at this moment in time, they are the ones being punished, targeted and killed simply for the color of their skin. They are the ones who need to fight for equality and acceptance. They are the focus of this movement.
Feminism, I feel, can be explained in a similar way. By saying “I’m a feminist” I am not saying “I hate all men”, I am simple saying that right now, in my world today, I feel as though as a woman I am not treated fairly and equally to my male counterparts. It isn’t about hating men, it’s about loving myself as a woman enough to know that I deserve to not only be politically and economically equal to men but I also deserve to be socially equal.
Then there’s the “I just don’t want to be grouped with feminazis” to which I say, oh well. There are bad apples in every group. More often than not I’ve found that the people who say this the most are those who are apart of some sort of organized political party or religion. A catholic girl saying “I believe in everything feminist do, I just don’t call myself a feminist because I don’t want to be grouped with the extreme feminist. People might think I’m like that too.” seems so hypocritical to me because I just think to myself – so you’re okay with calling yourself catholic, a religious group of people who are often grouped with pedophiles and child molesters but not with feminist who are sometimes referred to as man haters?
As I’ve said to many people (usually in the comments sections of YT videos where, let’s be honest, nobody actually cares what you have to say unless you’re patting them on the back for their intolerance or ignorance) that I am not going to stop calling myself a pagan just because some people have a negative connotation of the word or because some pagans don’t think I’m actually pagan (though it’s an umbrella term so….) because I have a more agnostic view of the world and spirituality as a whole, that doesn’t stop me from identifying as a pagan.
Then there’s the argument – Why don’t you just call yourself an egalitarian? Which if you didn’t know means : relating to or believing in the principle that all people are equal and deserve equal rights and opportunities.
Which sounds great and I am more then happy to use this term in accompany with feminist. I do believe in equality for every human being but (isn’t there always a big ol’ butt?) right now, in my life, I am focused on the inequality of women politically, economically and socially.
So you can say you’re not a feminist, but believe in everything feminism stands for, because you don’t want to be lumped with the radicals but, in my opinion, you should also refrain from using any labels to identify yourself or your beliefs. You know, to insure you’re not grouped with all the radicals within that group, movement, religious organization or political party . And if you call yourself, let’s say, a christian but at the same time disassociate yourself with feminism (because of the radicals) just know that I will assume you are just like all the radicalchristians, since you seem to be okay with using one label and not another despite the presence of radical ideals in each group.
Last night I had the weirdest dream, though to be honest a lot of my dreams are pretty unusual anyways, about being chased by a strange man.
I didn’t recognize this man, which I’ve read isn’t uncommon as we tend to place strangers we might have encountered in our day to day lives into our dreams, and I didn’t feel threatened by him at first.
In this dream I was walking in some random neighborhood, that I also didn’t recognize, in the dark. For some reason I had stopped in front of a house and when I started walking away I realized that I forgot my laptop. I must have placed it on the ground in front of this house. So I turned around to go back to get it, hoping it wasn’t stolen, and a strange man walked up to me and asked “Was someone in front of my house?!” and I said “Yeah, I’m sorry I think I left my laptop in your yard.”
He smiled at me and said that it was okay, though he sounded anger when he asked if someone was in front of his house, but I guess it didn’t concern “dream” me. He offered to walk back to his house with me so that I could retrieve my computer.
The next thing I remember is him getting really mad at me and beginning to chase me. But in my dream, as this often happens, it was like I was moving in slow motion and I couldn’t get away from him. He was right behind me and then I woke up.
The only thing I can really remember about his appearance was his fair skin, blonde hair and this creepy evil (al
most joker like) grin on his face. It freaked me out and I had a really tough time trying to get back to sleep.
And now, not sure if this is related, my thumb is doing this uncontrollable tremor thing. It’s done this before but it usually stops after a few minutes but it’s been happening all day. Perhaps it’s just stress.
Let’s just hope tonight’s dreams are a little more unicorns and rainbows.
edit: it is now currently 6am the next morning and i haven’t been to sleep yet so i thought i’d finish up this post to share with all of you. enjoy.
I am currently waiting for my boyfriend to head off to the studio so I can finally sit down and actually record the first episode of my new podcast Spiritual Tea. It feels like I’ve been talking about this for so long that the words “spiritual”, “tea” and “podcast” has almost lost all meaning to me. But I’ve got my notes and I’m going to make myself a yummy cup of green tea, so I’m ready.
Ya know, I’m constantly being told (mostly by the “baby boomers”) that I must not be working hard enough, doing enough, or sometimes I’m accused of not working at all because I don’t have a traditional 9-5 like they did when they were my age. Working from home, creating a business (I’m talking about my Etsy) and actually lovin what you do is still seen as “not real work”. How could you possibly be working hard if you’re not completely miserable and unhappy like I was?
I’m not sure if this is everyone’s experience but I’ve come to realize, in my life at least, no one is ever going to take me seriously when it comes to working. It’s either:
“You’re not making as much money as I would like to make, therefore you must be doing something wrong.”
“If you don’t have to leave your house to go to work then you’re not working.”
“Working is when you get a paycheck every week with your name on it.”
“If you’re not doing it my way, then you’re doing it the wrong way.”
Okay, so maybe I made these statements a little more… generic… but you get the point. So, um, why are you telling me this Sarah? Well, my little star baby, it’s because I want you to know that people like this do not define your worth. So let’s “debunk” these right now.
Their dream is not your dream. So you’re family or friends aspire to be millionaires. That’s awesome! But…. you do not need to aspire this as well. This may come as a shock to some of you but it’s not about money, money, money for everyone. If you’ve found yourself in a place of “I’d just like to be comfortable” and for you comfortable is a small house in the woods, a studio apartment in the city or living in a van on the road 24/7 that’s okay.
Okay, times have changed. We have the internet, cellphones…. Twitter. I mean people are literally making money running Twitter and Instagram accounts. Working from home is no longer the unachievable, more and more people are desiring this option everyday.
This is that “mob mentality” way of thinking. We’ve been brainwashed to believe that we’re only as worthy as the numbers printed on a piece of paper. It’s been drilled into our heads that a “normal job” is one where you sit in traffic for aN hour, sit at a desk for 8 hours and come home to sit on the couch for 4 hours. Then every 2 weeks you get a little piece of paper with the amount of money someone thought your time, effort and hard work was worth. Don’t even get me started on “the man”.
The last one is the one I hear the most often. I didn’t achieve my goals in a way that someone else would have, therefore I must be wrong. I don’t live my life the way someone else does, therefore I must be wrong. I don’t have the same dreams of big houses, fancy cars and design clothes (which I guess some people think this is what everyone wants) therefore I must be wrong.
My brother once told me “if it’s not going to make you a million dollars someday, then it’s not worth it.” He was referring to my Etsy shop. I was talking to him about my goals for the shop and new designs I’d be launching soon but admittedly I was complain a little about how much work I put into it and how I wish I was seeing a little more kickback. I should have known that he would suggest not pursuing if I wasn’t going to be making myself rich from it.
Than there’s friends (who are more like family) who are always trying to suggest ways for me to “improve” my shop. They’ll tell me about some new fad or trend that everyone is into and then insist that if I sell these things I’ll make more money. They are ALWAYS suggesting I design things that don’t fit my brand because they think it’s cute or they would like it.
And in the end when I don’t take their advice I get the “I must not want it bad enough” speech. “It” being success and “success” actually meaning lots of money.
You can’t please everyone. It is not your job to be someone else’s version of success. It’s about what you define as success. If success to you is living in a studio apartment, in the city and living off the income from making clay figurines of creepy baby monsters then be the best creepy baby monster figurine maker you can be!
Is it not cool to be a feminist? Is it not cool to be proud to be a women and to be sure that we bring awareness to the fact that we are still held to a different standard than men when it comes to things like beauty standards and our sexuality?
An ongoing trend, that I’ve been wanting to discuss recently, is women (online mainly) who have been “rejecting” feminism, or simply discrediting other females who proudly “wear” the label of feminist. I see it in the comments on YouTube videos, on Instagram and sometimes on Facebook. And the videos about “Why I’m not a feminist” are usually of women talking about how much they hate feminism. They go on rants about how it’s just women who hate men or because they’ve never experienced discrimination solely based on the fact that they have a vagina, it must mean that no other woman has either.
And then you read the comments of these videos. Guys patting these girls on the back, thankful that there are still some “smart women” in the world who know that they are “just as equal” as men and they don’t really need to fight for anything or raise awareness about anything to deal with oppression, discrimination or just downright misogynistic behavior.
They like to reference some radical no name (I say no name because it’s usually some random person with a random screen name not linked to any actually personal accounts) Tumblr user that said she’s a feminist and she hates men. As if that random person represents every feminist.
I find myself questioning if these girls are only doing this because guys think they’re cool??? Or maybe they really are so sheltered in life that they don’t even realize what’s going on in the world around them???
I know this is pretty short and I’d love to go into more details about this topic because I am a feminist and this is something important to me. But I have so much work to do for my Etsy shop and, ya know, just general house work (ugh! Does anyone else hate washing dishes as much as me? lol)
I’ll catch all your lovely faces on the flipside ❤
Something I’ve struggled with my entire life is self doubt I have a horrible habit of starting things that I can’t finish because it seems that every time I start something (especially if I plan to share it with others) I fall into an existential crisis and begin wondering “what’s the point?” or “why even bother, we’ll all be dead in a 100 years anyways.” And then I drop whatever it was I was doing and lay on my floor in silence, staring at the ceiling just waiting for it to end.
I’d like to stress that I’m not suicidal. I do not want to kill myself and I can’t remember having many moments in my life where I thought that it would be easier if I just wasn’t here. An existential crisis is different. It’s about questioning the purpose, meaning or value of life. It’s not about wanting not to have one completely. Though I guess one could come to that conclusion because of their existential crisis, but that’s not what I’m talking about right now.
Making videos, podcasts and e books about MY spiritual practice is something I’ve always wanted to do (actually I did do it once but got overwhelmed and deleted… like everything) but my self doubt seems to hinder me every time. I doubt that I have the ability to create what people want to see. I doubt my abilities to make it understandable or relatable. But what it usually boils down to – Is this really going to matter and what’s the point?
I’m not good enough.
There are people out there who have been practicing longer than me.
What if someone doesn’t like what I have to say?
What if someone I know see’s it and makes fun of me?
My practice is too “out of the box” and people won’t understand.
What if I come off arrogant or full of myself?
Someone else has already talked about this topic.
Who am I to have a different opinion about something that someone else might know more about?
And the list could go on and on and on. Sometimes I feel like I have enough experience in something to be able to give advice or guidance but once I actually start doing that I feel like my experience doesn’t “level up” to that of someone else who also decided to discuss this topic so I should just stop all together.
I’ve been allowing other people to measure my worth, my experiences and my abilities by comparing myself to them. I am not them. And I know that this train of thought isn’t going to magically poof away because I’m now aware of it. I’m not naive. I do, however, hope that now that I am aware of this that I can work on it, understand it and maybe try to find a way to use it to my advantage.
Shadow work, for me, isn’t about solving the problem or even fixing the problem (sometimes you might find that there is no problems) but it’s about learning to deal with it, live with it and hopefully one day use it for the better.
I’d really like to talk more about my shadow work experiences and just about shadow work in general. I’d like to share how my spirituality has helped me overcome and turn around me shadows to work with my light.
When I was younger it was almost expected that your new boo create a mix CD for you and that they make you one for every important relationship milestone. You know? The 1 week anniversary, the 1 month anniversary, the 1 month anniversary of your first kiss and if you got to 6 months than you expected a “Mega Mix” CD.
Nowadays, since the invention of the MP3 player and iPod, you’re more likely to get an iTunes gift card than a CD full of songs you two could share together. And since music is so easily accessible now it seems like more work to make a mix CD than it does to make a Spotify playlist or to just download the song on iTunes.
We could take it real far back with the mix tapes. Those were a bitch to try and make. You had to have that tape ready to record in your stereo because you never knew when that one song you’ve been trying to get for 6 weeks would finally come on the radio. And than if you’re lucky enough to get to your stereo fast enough, you’d have to hope the DJ didn’t interrupt the song with that self promo bullshit.
Let’s get back on topic though, last week I had this aha moment when I was listening to my iPod and I put it on shuffle and I found myself skipping every single song. I wanted to make myself listen to something other than the same 20 songs I always listen to but with it so easy for me to skip them I failed at my mission. And that’s when I thought about mix CDs.
When I would put a mix CD in my stereo and go lay in my bed I didn’t really have that easy ability to change the song whenever I want. I mean I had a controller for my stereo but let’s be honest I never knew where the hell that thing was and I was either way too lazy or going through some teenage angst shit to bother getting up to change whatever was playing. I’d just let the words sink in, the music drown into my ears and just let whatever feelings I was feeling in those moments be felt.
I propose that we bring back the mix CD. We bring back the days when we showed someone how we felt with the music that made us feel those same feelings. We bring back the days when we’d spend a week trying to pick out the perfect songs, create the cover art and decide on the coolest name we could think of to really describe that feeling.
Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to create a badass mix CD for someone, anyone. A friend, a boyfriend, your parent(s), your sibling, your dog or even yourself.
If you do, please post a photo of it on Instagram and use the hashtag #messyindigochildmix