Hello witchy babes! Having an Etsy shop myself, I know how hard it can sometimes be to get your shop noticed and make a name for yourself. It doesn’t help either when there’s hundreds of other shops selling similar creations as you. So I’ve decided to do a Weekly Etsy Roundup. Every Sunday I’ll be featuring 5 products on Etsy that have caught my eye.
What’s better than an everyday plain jane toner? Why a magical one of course! Now it should be noted that the beautiful creator of this toner doesn’t claim it has any magical abilities. But come on, just looking at this wonderful packaging alone, it’s got to be a little magical… right?
“It’s SPRING!” is what most people are rejoicing in right now. Ostara was about 2 weeks ago and I wanted so badly to really get into it this year. But it seems that I am forever stuck in autumn.
Spring is a time of manifesting, to me at least, it’s a time to begin those new adventures, that new project or start something fresh. That’s why we always hear about people doing their spring cleaning. I think this is because naturally, when the sun has been gone for so long and the days have been so cold, we want to start fresh when mother nature also starts fresh. The flowers and trees are blooming again with new life and the animals are ascending from hibernation. We naturally want to do the same.
Autumn (Mabon) for me is a time of reflection and endings. It signals, in my mind, a time to end projects I’ve been working on, reflect back on my year and to prepare for the darker days ahead. For me it’s a time of solitude. In the past this time of year definitely gave me Hermit vibes. Though the fall season is my favorite (Halloween is my all time favorite holiday and I make no apologies for that lol) but it’s still a time of darkness, shadow work and reflection.
I feel I have been stuck in this feeling for quite some time now. Since autumn of 2015 actually. I haven’t felt a sense of renewal, refreshment or rebirth since then and I think it’s shows in my practice both spiritually and magically. I don’t want to forces it but I do long to feel a sense of completion already.
Sometimes it feels like I’ve been trying to better understand the same shadows for the past 2 years. It might be time for me to take a step back from the shadow work and more forward for a little while. Maybe focus more of self love and manifesting, rather than trying to relive the past. I feel as if I just made a breakthrough while writing this lol.
So vow, to myself, here and now to try and re blossom and rebirth that old spark inside of myself. I intend on setting some new goals for this year and I feel like now is a great time for that.
Last night I had the weirdest dream, though to be honest a lot of my dreams are pretty unusual anyways, about being chased by a strange man.
I didn’t recognize this man, which I’ve read isn’t uncommon as we tend to place strangers we might have encountered in our day to day lives into our dreams, and I didn’t feel threatened by him at first.
In this dream I was walking in some random neighborhood, that I also didn’t recognize, in the dark. For some reason I had stopped in front of a house and when I started walking away I realized that I forgot my laptop. I must have placed it on the ground in front of this house. So I turned around to go back to get it, hoping it wasn’t stolen, and a strange man walked up to me and asked “Was someone in front of my house?!” and I said “Yeah, I’m sorry I think I left my laptop in your yard.”
He smiled at me and said that it was okay, though he sounded anger when he asked if someone was in front of his house, but I guess it didn’t concern “dream” me. He offered to walk back to his house with me so that I could retrieve my computer.
The next thing I remember is him getting really mad at me and beginning to chase me. But in my dream, as this often happens, it was like I was moving in slow motion and I couldn’t get away from him. He was right behind me and then I woke up.
The only thing I can really remember about his appearance was his fair skin, blonde hair and this creepy evil (al
most joker like) grin on his face. It freaked me out and I had a really tough time trying to get back to sleep.
And now, not sure if this is related, my thumb is doing this uncontrollable tremor thing. It’s done this before but it usually stops after a few minutes but it’s been happening all day. Perhaps it’s just stress.
Let’s just hope tonight’s dreams are a little more unicorns and rainbows.
In this first episode I talk about buying and selling spiritual and magical goods and services. I discuss everything from tarot readings and witchcraft courses to buying spells and hiring witches to curse people.
Please be sure to give me your feedback so that I can improve the podcast, get another perspective on the topic and get some fresh ideas from all of you about what to discuss next.
This can relate to any topic really but I want to focus more on common words in the spiritual community, specifically in the pagan / witchcraft community. When does the actually definition of a word not matter anymore? When does someone’s own personal experience (or a group of people’s experiences) or opinions begin to dictate what that word now means and who can use it?
Of course we’ve seen it with feminism (ya’ll know how much I love to bring this topic up lol). People don’t want to call themselves a feminist because of the way other people, who call themselves feminist, behave. Or they say that so and so isn’t a real feminist because they did blank.
Interestingly on the Pagan Youtube FB group someone posted about a young lady on Youtube who has started a, sort of, course or class online about witchcraft that she charges $300 to sign up for. The original poster on the FB group didn’t seem to be the one bothered with the use of the word “coven” but when I read the comments I wasn’t surprised that not many could agree if the use of the word was okay or not. Or more importantly if it was misleading.
Some stating that they simply don’t see a problem and some flat out saying that this “isn’t a real coven” because it isn’t similar to any coven they’ve been a part of in the past or present. And some saying it isn’t because you shouldn’t have to pay to be a part of a coven dynamic. Which brings us to a whole other discussion altogether about charging for “witchy” or spiritual services (which I plan to talk about next week on Spiritual Tea). Someone else said that the use of the word “coven” (in the context I’m assuming) is misappropriating the word.
So this brings me back to my original question: When does the actually definition of a word not matter anymore? When does someone’s own personal experience (or a group of people’s experiences) or opinions begin to dictate what that word now means and who can use it?
The definition of the word coven is: a group or gathering of witches who meet regularly. Or a secret or close-knit group of associates.
Nowhere in the definition does it explicitly say that someone couldn’t charge to be apart of one or that it must be X amount of witches of X age. Nor does it say who can form a coven or what the coven members need to do or how they should do it. So by definition you could literally call any close group of friends / associates a coven and it wouldn’t be misappropriating the word.
But what about the money part? Well some may argue that it isn’t ethical or appropriate to charge to be a part of a coven. And some will argue that a coven of a certain size, taking up a certain large amount of the “leaders” (or teachers) time would be something one would be expected to pay for. Not to mention that online covens and “in person” covens are different in that one can be hosted at someone’s home with little to no money needed to connect to each other. An online coven however relies on internet connection and website hosting, among other things like webcam, computer programs and not to mention the most expensive thing of all, time. Creating videos, blog post, ebooks, courses, ezines, podcast and much more takes a lot of time and planning. Like I said before, I will be discussing the topic of charging money in exchange for spiritual / magical goods and services next week.
Since we’re on the topics of words being misappropriated, I’d like to talk about how I think using the word “Tribe” is misleading and kind of makes me cringe.
So the definition of tribe is: a social division in a traditional society consisting of families or communities linked by social, economic, religious, or blood ties, with a common culture and dialect, typically having a recognized leader.
By definition people who refer to their group (this was popular amongst the witchy / pagan community for a while last year, not sure about now) as their tribe consider themselves to be the leader of said group or recognizing that there must be a leader of their group. Of course I know this isn’t true. It was a term that was adopted to describe a close group of people who have similar interest (whether social or religious) to you and that you connected with.
“Your vibe attracts your tribe” I believe was the phrase that was popularized in late 2015 and early 2016. Witches made videos discussing “finding their tribes”. As I said I personally cringe at the use of the word but that’s just because I already have my own idea of what a tribe should be or look like that is completely based on my own personal experiences. That being said, it is not my place to push my own personal ideals of what something should be or should look like.
So I ask you again, for the last time I promise, When does someone’s own personal experience (or a group of people’s experiences) or opinions begin to dictate what that word now means and who can use it?
Follow up question: Who or what gets to dictate or determine what is or isn’t a “real” coven? And do you have any experiences within a coven?
Something I’ve struggled with my entire life is self doubt I have a horrible habit of starting things that I can’t finish because it seems that every time I start something (especially if I plan to share it with others) I fall into an existential crisis and begin wondering “what’s the point?” or “why even bother, we’ll all be dead in a 100 years anyways.” And then I drop whatever it was I was doing and lay on my floor in silence, staring at the ceiling just waiting for it to end.
I’d like to stress that I’m not suicidal. I do not want to kill myself and I can’t remember having many moments in my life where I thought that it would be easier if I just wasn’t here. An existential crisis is different. It’s about questioning the purpose, meaning or value of life. It’s not about wanting not to have one completely. Though I guess one could come to that conclusion because of their existential crisis, but that’s not what I’m talking about right now.
Making videos, podcasts and e books about MY spiritual practice is something I’ve always wanted to do (actually I did do it once but got overwhelmed and deleted… like everything) but my self doubt seems to hinder me every time. I doubt that I have the ability to create what people want to see. I doubt my abilities to make it understandable or relatable. But what it usually boils down to – Is this really going to matter and what’s the point?
I’m not good enough.
There are people out there who have been practicing longer than me.
What if someone doesn’t like what I have to say?
What if someone I know see’s it and makes fun of me?
My practice is too “out of the box” and people won’t understand.
What if I come off arrogant or full of myself?
Someone else has already talked about this topic.
Who am I to have a different opinion about something that someone else might know more about?
And the list could go on and on and on. Sometimes I feel like I have enough experience in something to be able to give advice or guidance but once I actually start doing that I feel like my experience doesn’t “level up” to that of someone else who also decided to discuss this topic so I should just stop all together.
I’ve been allowing other people to measure my worth, my experiences and my abilities by comparing myself to them. I am not them. And I know that this train of thought isn’t going to magically poof away because I’m now aware of it. I’m not naive. I do, however, hope that now that I am aware of this that I can work on it, understand it and maybe try to find a way to use it to my advantage.
Shadow work, for me, isn’t about solving the problem or even fixing the problem (sometimes you might find that there is no problems) but it’s about learning to deal with it, live with it and hopefully one day use it for the better.
I’d really like to talk more about my shadow work experiences and just about shadow work in general. I’d like to share how my spirituality has helped me overcome and turn around me shadows to work with my light.
If you’re unfamiliar with Pop Culture Paganism than I suggest you take a look here and here and maybe even here, for some insight on this whole thing.
So what’s a spirit guide? In Western Spiritualism, “Spirit guides” are entities that remain as disincarnate spirits in order to act as a guide or protector to a living incarnated human being.
You might also need to know what an archetype is but for the sake of making this post as easy to follow and understand as I can, we’ll go with the simplest definition : a very typical example of a certain person or thing. Of course this very typical example will only be so to you but you’ll understand when we get more into this.
Spirituality can sometimes be a touchy subject. It can make people uncomfortable whether that be because they are met with the challenges of someone disagreeing with their religious views or maybe it makes them question their religious views. Either way it isn’t always an easy topic to discuss. Of course it’s made much easier, in my experience, when your views are way to crazy for most people to really grasp, let alone try to understand.
This is where Pop Culture Paganism really comes into play. Pop Culture Paganism (PCP) is the use of pop culture characters and stories as either an approachable face for traditional Pagan deities and powers, or as a substitute for more traditional powers
It can be really confusing for your guest when they come to your home and see devotional style candles with popular characters and figures on them instead of the common saints or other religious figures. Most people will write it off as a quirky / weird fashion statement or decor piece but sometimes they’ll ask you about it and then immediately regret asking after you say the words “Pop Culture Paganism” or “pop culture magick” <– which is something completely different that you can read about here.
Some may argue that you can’t have a fictional character like Batman be your spirit guide because it is not a spirit, it is a made up person [superhero]. I would argue against that because a spirit is the nonphysical part of a person that is the seat of emotions and character; the soul. So it wouldn’t be too “out there” to think that a character (even a made up one) wouldn’t still have a spirit or soul. This character still feels, does it not? This character still has characteristics that set it apart from other characters. So this would make it a spirit.
Of course pop culture paganism isn’t just about made up character but can also incorporate real celebrities into the practice. An example might be someone calling on the spirit of Amy Winehouse to help guide them through a battle with addiction.
And then we have to differentiate between a spirit guide and an archetype. Many might get this confused (I know I did at one point) because they may seem like one in the same but they are very different.
A spirit guide is there to guide you and [sometimes] teach you. An archetype is almost similar to
personifying which means to represent or embody (a quality, concept, or thing) in a physical form.
So you might say that Cher Horowitz (from the movie Clueless) is your throat chakra archetype or you might personify your throat chakra as Cher Horowitz. You have now given a typical idea or theory (that being the throat chakra) an identity to better help you connect with, balance and work with it.
I would say, by definition, pop culture pagans aren’t worshipping anything new by using someone like Beyonce or Snow White as their Goddess representation but instead personifying this idea of Goddess (or divine feminine) by giving it a physical form of representation. I really wanted to clarify that really quick just so that I do make it clear that pagans aren’t, at least this pagan isn’t lol, worshipping actually people I am just using them as representation of the divine.
You can find these candles and more on Etsy by searching ‘saint candles’, though I’d suggesting making one yourself. It’s not hard. Print a photo, cut out from magazines or create a collage on your computer (polyvore is a great site to do this) and then print that out and mod podge or tape it to your candle. Super simple. Also these candles can usually be found at your local Dollar Tree.